How to overcome female sexuality problems and attain
extraordinary female orgasm
Here’s a question that has plagued medical science for ages:
If sexual pleasure for both males and females is the evolutionary
guarantee that they’ll get together and procreate, then why isn’t
female orgasm as much of a foregone conclusion as that of the male?
Recent studies indicate that female orgasm does, indeed, contribute to
the likelihood of conception. Her orgasmic contractions help propel
sperm toward her eggs. Some now feel that a biological basis for
female pleasure means researchers should spend more time and
resources to understanding it better.
However, female orgasm has traditionally been considered to be “nice,
but not necessary”. This may be largely true if we look upon sex for
reproduction alone.
However, if we talk about couples experiencing profound sexual
intimacy, mutual pleasure and happiness, then all that becomes
irrelevant. The fact is that extraordinary sexual pleasure is possible
for all women. It is also a fact that women who regularly experience
orgasms in their sexual relationships are more likely to live happy,
contented, well-adjusted and healthy lives than those who do not
experience climax with their sexual partners.
The super-sexual woman
There are, of course, many women who have no problems in reaching
orgasm through sexual intercourse. Such women are sexually
uninhibited, enjoy frequent sex with one or more partners, Most
of us know women who talk about reaching female orgasm every time they
have sex, in every position, with any partner, and it’s always
mind-blowing! Though we may be skeptical about such claims, the fact
is that it’s true – there are women who have it, love it, and get it
on a regular basis.
In some ideal world, where there is no hormonal imbalance, fatigue,
emotional baggage, traumatic past or disconnected present, all women
would be super-sexual. All women have the capability of extreme sexual
pleasure and orgasm. Yet, in real life, very large numbers of women
are unable to climax through intercourse and remain sexually
unfulfilled.
Sexual fears and frustrations
The female sexual cycle is rooted in psychology more than the male.
While men sometimes succumb to “performance anxiety” or other fears
that derail their sexual abilities, most women have deep needs for
closeness and security that either have to be met or overcome to some
extent. They confront a host of emotional requirements or voids when
engaging in sex. At the same time, their hormonal patterns change
throughout their lifetimes.
Expectations and relationship factors
Most women need emotional connection along with sexual activity.
However, there are many variations of that pattern. To oversimplify,
we could say that there are two kinds of sexually fulfilled women:
- Those whose relationships match their needs for intimacy and
security,
- Those who have more or less transcended the link between sex and
emotion.
The former group gets emotional needs met (at least some of the time)
by their partner, so that sex is a positive forum for self-expression
and enjoyment.
The latter group may just love sex and enjoy it, without the need for
an emotional relationship. But, even they find sex more satisfying
with partners they actively like than with those they are indifferent
to.
For either category, there are now huge opportunities for new, greater
pleasures, satisfying sex and fulfilling orgasm.
Sexual problems within otherwise healthy relationships
When there are sexual problems within otherwise healthy
relationships, often leading to the total absence of female orgasm,
one or more of the following factors need to be considered:
-
Traumatic past
A distressingly high percentage women have been sexually molested or
abused. Many of them work back to healthy sexual attitudes either on
their own or through counseling. But, for some, the pain lingers and
shows up in unexpected ways.
Best recommendation:
Soft, easy, gentle approaches and total acceptance of unexpected
sexual attitudes.
Men in this relationship:
Pile on the love, the care, the softness, and the concern about her
needs. At the same time, be open to the possibility that she may
want to explore the world of pain and pleasure, of forcible or
violent sex. Through it all, enjoy, and follow up with loving
reinforcement.
Women in this situation:
Have no fear of all the things that make you who you are. If you
have shut-down moments, that is times when sexual response is
interrupted by your hidden past, explore those things on your own.
Take your time with yourself, experiment with masturbation, use a
sexual stimulant, like Vigorelle, and openly embrace
those things that make you feel good.
- Hormonal problems
Childbirth, aging and a number of other health issues can
cause a disruption of hormones leading to inadequate sexual
response. A doctor can help women address the underlying hormonal
causes, and may even prescribe hormonal treatments.
However, even for women in treatment for hormonal problems, there
are a number of good, natural aids:
Provestra, an all-natural supplement that works to bring women’s
hormones back into balance and to boost the libido.
Topical oils or creams like
Vigorelle, that contain transdermal ingredients in close contact
with the genitals for immediate, sexual response boost.
GenF20HGH, a great supplement
that not only boosts libido, but also addresses all the systems of
the body to bring a woman’s entire
equilibrium back to a youthful, vibrant level.
- Relationship issues
When love goes sour, the first casualty is sex. Why?
Because women attach so much importance to love and romance, that
when these things are compromised, her sexual responsiveness
suffers.
Experienced men know that they must keep their woman’s sexuality
alive to keep her drawn to them -- and in fact, keeping the sexual
spark going may just be the thing that keeps couples connected
through the tough times. If you’re in a relationship where there
appears to be a threat to your sex life, do whatever you can to keep
love alive.
Products that enhance sexual pleasure for all women
Here are a few good additions to your love toolbox:
Vigorelle
crème – a slightly warming, stimulant cream that adds lubrication
and heat to her clitoris and vagina and enhances sexual response and
pleasure.
Provestra – As a daily rev-up to the woman’s libido, this
all-natural, herbal-based supplement nourishes the entire female
reproductive system and dramatically enhances libido.
Taking charge
Despite all the other things we can offer in terms of a woman’s
sexuality, the best thing of all is for the woman to take charge of
her own pleasure. By that we mean:
- Any fantasy is OK, whether you involve your partner or not.
- Any method of achieving female orgasm is OK (so long as no one
else is hurt). This obviously includes masturbation.
- Anything the woman wishes to bring to the bedroom to enhance her
pleasure - sex toys, erotica, fantasies or whatever - is fine.
Things known to help:
- Communication:
What feels good? Women should indicate - either with words, or by
making moves and guiding their partners - about which parts of
her body she wants him to caress, which movements and pressures and
techniques feel best. Men can discover the things she likes by
being bold and creative – and then carefully listening to and
watching her response. Men should try things, be daring, be bold, be
creative.
- Openness: Women, be frank when things go wrong –
and say so in a clear way without blaming. It’s helpful to just say,
“this is what happened” when it comes to sex, and then explore it
together, asking things like, "what’s up with that?" Or “could we
try it again this other way?”
Finally, women and men both have to believe that their partner
wants to please them. Give one another this benefit of the doubt.
Introduce some new elements like
Vigorelle
and
Provestra. Both partners can then revel in the exhilarating
experience of amazing sex, intense female orgasm and mutual
fulfillment in this most profound of human experiences.
